The Insanity Of Alcoholism unfortunately is when people of good intentions look forward to protecting the alcoholic from himself or herself [enabling] or make an attempt to make a prediction about what the alcoholic will do next despite having no crystal ball to do so.
There are many reasonable expressions between alcoholics in recovery process. Some of them are supposed to make you think and others are supposed to be taken very precisely. "The insanity of our disease" is how Alcoholics Anonymous calls it. The statement by alcoholics anonymous is considered to be literal in every sense. Because it will take common sense, being able to spot the behavioural patterns, acceptance and willingness to learn from past errors, and jettisoning of human reasoning to understand an alcoholic, it is not easy for me to get you to reason like me, though I can tell you how to spot an alcoholic.
There are nearly a hundred forms of alcoholism. What I am describing below here is an individual who is still drinking and functioning properly but has not until this time lost any of the things they hold dear. They will definitely experience such losses according to the way of addiction and also experience an unfortunate future (like jail or death) according to the rule of threes. Altered awareness of themselves and the surroundings is the foundation to alcoholic thinking, acting, and beliefs.
Either they live on the edge or there is no life. Within their world view they do not have any terms, which indicate moderation, no middle ground, no compromise or grey areas. What makes it much harder for them to make sense of all that's happening around them is that they are also not fully aware of the real extent of the destruction that their behaviour causes.
Because of their ability to convince themselves that lies are truths by justifying and rationalizing everything, you will discover the biggest liars among addicts. The lying is usually a subconscious response.
They don't comprehend that they are ruining their lives.
Alcoholics use some expressions that makes easy lying in a way that sounds like it's true. "Probably" is one of the most commonly used words in this regard. "Probably" suggests goal which actually doesn't exist any. An alcohol addict that says he will most likely act in certain manner will in most case not do it. These words are ambiguous; they are a way out to keeping the word given and committing. The alcoholic loves words and sentences such as probably, perhaps, might, can, must, I'd love to, I wish to, I should do. These words don't make sense. The words sound good, but in most cases lead to a disappointment. Alcoholism ruins everything from relations, communication and everything that makes up the alcoholic's life.
Most of the alcoholics will tell you that the horse will not see properly when blinders are placed on it. They have to focus on something specific because although they want to pay attention to several things they practically can't.
Doing more things at once signifies big confusion for an alcoholic. The active alcoholic cannot concentrate. They have the propensity to dwell too much on that area of their life that experiences problems. During this procedure when another part with their lives begins to decline, and gradually their lives get taken over by "firehouse management" where every course of action becomes concentrated on the most pressing problem. Even though some addicts maintain it for a long period, this is an unavoidably downward spiral.
Alcoholics will tend to hide how often and how much they drink when they start consuming more alcohol. They may tell you a half truth such as drinking only three glasses of wine on a given day. However, the fact that each of those glasses was a 16 ounce tumbler is what you will not be informed. By indulging in such actions alcoholics do not understand that while their problem with the drinking remains hidden there also making an attempt to hide the negative effects of alcohol within their lives. "An external locus of control" is what therapist call the phenomenon alcoholics generate. They will start blaming other people for all their problems as time goes on. If they are not doing well with their job, it is because their boss hates them. If their marriage suffers for any reason, the spouse is considered as unreasonable. Whenever they don't succeed as parents, they will see as it's their kids's fault for being selfish.
They will find a cause for drinking in anything and everything.The problematic alcoholic will frequently mention that they don't even wish to drink, however the situations of dealing with an unpleasant job/spouse/children "obligate" them to drink.
Alcoholics constantly have a strange feeling of entitlement. They say they are not mature or responsible, and self-centred because life forces them to go through difficulties / anxiety / commitment. When observing the behaviour of an alcoholic it is easy to conclude and come to a belief that the entire world must owe them something. Self-pity is also common in alcoholics and many seem to think that the world is against them. And although they'll expect less from those around them, they'll still ask more from the world.
The fastest path to self elimination for alcohol addicts is the expression, "Screw it." The meaning is that they can go ahead and drink since everything is already damaged. When alcoholics decide to give up on their habit, we encourage them to notice that "it" is, in reality "me." This is visible in, "It's not worth it." On many occasions, the alcoholic is aware of the truth, but they usually work hard not to understand it. They won't just want to deny their condition on their own but will also want those around them to deny it themselves. Everything increasingly turns into exteriority and less into practicality. The Pink's song named "Family Portrait," captures this well by saying. In our family portrait, we look pretty happy.
We look pretty normal.'
Alcoholics are chief schemers. After they became addicts they began showing incredible abilities as real performers. These are the people who can sell ice to Eskimos. They will make you feel guilty even when they are the cause of the quarrel between you and them. They manifest a bit or no liability at all. They will demonstrate an almost total lack of integrity even if they had been the most transparent of people before their addiction. The one thing that the alcoholic does particularly well, the thing that gives them confidence, is usually the exception in this case. In some cases, you may get an alcoholic whose attitude to work is amazing, because it is an area they enjoy so much and are perfect in ......plus drinking.
The disease of alcoholism will gradually strip everything away from the individual The debate of whether alcoholism is a choice or a disease has been raging for a while. In fact, it is both illness and option. Alcoholism is as special as any ailment, because it is invisible to others and also makes the victims not to believe its presence. As it connects to all other sicknesses, there is a peculiar choice for the active addict. The alcohol addict may face remission at any period and many do. We notice that alcoholics will quit drinking for a period to show themselves or other that they aren't alcohol addicted, just to come back later with revenge.
Recovery from alcohol addiction includes much more than sobriety. Recovery from alcohol addiction includes modifying each aspect of someone's life. People are referred to as "dry drunk" when they stop drinking alone, and it means that they just stopped drinking, but the sickness of alcoholism is still there, and only a few can maintain this stoppage for a longer period. Expertly speaking, it is only the Alcoholics Anonymous program that can bring about full recovery. Numerous other positive things can be added to the program developed by Alcoholics Anonymous, and their importance cannot be overstated. Help from relatives and pals are what people in therapy need. I unfortunately deal with pals and relatives who innocently are on the side of the alcoholic (by shielding an alcoholic from the effects of their behaviour) and this keeps that person bond with booze.